Monday, November 24, 2014

Why You Should Date a Female Engineer

For whatever reason, one of the top questions people ask Google that lead to this blog is "why should you date a female engineer". So curious people of the internet, I will take a break from my normal content and give you a <sarcasm> totally unbiased </sarcasm> answer to your question.

[Note: before you get too upset, read the paragraph after the list...]

  1. She's too busy to be clingy. Engineers can work some pretty ridiculous hours, so you can't expect her to be sitting around waiting for your text.
  2. Years of working with socially inept people makes her forgiving of your social faux pas. You'd have to be super awkward in order to make her feel weird. Your bad self can probably still get away with sandals and socks on occasion.
  3. She's trained to consider facts over emotional responses. Contrary to popular belief, this doesn't mean she is dead inside. 
  4. If you are a technical person, she's interested in what you did at work today. No more eyes glazing over, she understands what you did and can ask you questions to show she was actually listening. 
  5. She knows how to be one of the guys. She won't embarrass you in front of your boys because she knows how to blend into a group of dudes. 
  6. She can apply a deep understanding of physics, biology, and chemistry to your relationship. Yup. I went there. 
  7. She likes nerdy movies just as much as you do. She won't judge how much you like the Avengers or X-Men, because she loves them too. 
  8. She's good under pressure. If anything in your relationship is more stressful than her job, then you are doing something wrong. 
  9. She will support you in your endeavors to make your own sandwich. And you should really acquire this life skill and not expect a woman to do it for you. As they say, give a man a sandwich feed him for lunch. Teach a man to make a sandwich, do more useful things with your engineering degree. 
  10. She won't call you to fix things around the house. She can fix them herself, thank you very much. Unless it's a gross bug, or a dead animal. Then all the rules go out the window; they don't teach that stuff in thermo.
  11. She is a pro at building a solid foundation to any relationship, and knows how to make sparks fly. Yeah, I'm not sure what this one ever is supposed to mean. It's 100% here for a reach pun. I hope you enjoyed it.
  12. She will laugh at your lame puns. See the number 11.
  13. She's low maintenance. She's learned to sacrifice wearing fashionable dresses and stiletto heels for coveralls and steel toed boots in the name of practicality
  14. If you have a problem, she'll fix it. Engineers are problem solvers, and we are trained to fix problems instead of just feeling sorry about it.
  15. She's not desperate. 
Really, why should a female engineer date you?
If you couldn't tell, this list is a joke. While female engineers are a smaller group than most, there is still a wide range of personalities involved. So, not everyone fits inside the box of what you may think of as a stereotypical female engineer. I don't meet many of the items I've listed above myself. There is about as much reason to date a female engineer as there is to date a scuba diver, or a waitress, or a teacher, or anyone else- you should date someone for who they are. A woman's (or a man's) chosen profession is only a piece of the story of who she (or he) is, and shouldn't be a deciding factor in whether or not you date her (or him).

Cheers,

Vanessa

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43 comments :

  1. Hello Vanessa Pocket, I found your post mightily amusing! Have a good day!

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    1. I'm so glad you found it amusing! Hope you had a great day too. :)

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    2. My experience with female Engineers has been very limited; I will offer the following observations based on that fact.They tend to be very casual, never talk down to you, very humble, extremely sensual and physically beautiful. Damn why am I so unfortunate (stupid) to have make these observation, finding and conclusions so late in life. Oh well that's the story of my life, a penny long and a dollar short !

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  2. I loved these. While funny, many are actually quite accurate. For me at least. Ha! I bet my husband would agree. :)

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  3. Thank you for letting them know explicitly that it's a joke! ;)

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    1. I just saw all of the Facebook comments, and I'm glad I explicitly said that too! I was almost going to take it out because I thought it would be obvious- but I suppose you never know how other people will read something.

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  4. My husband says he's grateful I'm not like other women ! I say what I mean, I can get to the point, I don't cry much, I can be rational and reasonable, I can defend my perspective in a pleasant logical way. I'm ok with giving him space. I can make a decision. I don't have meltdowns because he wants to work late or go to the computer store.

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  5. This is just great haha. Where can I find me a Female Engineer that's just like me?

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    1. Computer clusters, hack-a-thons, Reddit, science conferences... you know, all of the normal places.

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    1. I'm interested! Do you still live in Kenya? I am in the U.S.

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  7. This is pretty spot on! lol

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  8. speaking of practicality. .why would i want my 'wife' to be like my buddies from the engg college. . .use a car as a car and not as a pick-up truck, vic-vrs use a pick-up truck as a pick-up truck not a car. . .half of the guys who crib aftr marriage are those who search for a wife based on one thing and aftr marrige expect smthin else altogthr. . .

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  9. Yup just about all of these are true, joking or not, and my boyfriend agrees :) Very funny. Not to be generalized though! ;)

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  10. My husband said it's not really a joke, it's closer to the truth. And then he looked at me, smiled and said it's like reading my biography!

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  11. I think your article is very true and that is why we (at least I as chemical engineer) am attractive to some dudes. Lol!

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  12. Overall good list. But number 8 should be: She's good under pressure. If anything in your relationship is more stressful than her job, then you are doing something wrong. 
    Use then not than.

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    1. Oops! That's embarrassing! It took 58 k people to call me out on it too. Thanks for the edit, I've fixed it!

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  13. Hubs, also a chemical engineer, and I agree with (and laughed at) the gross bug statement. So true. Changing the oil, rewiring a circuit, building a shelf, all fine. Earwig trespassing in the entryway. I revert to full on helpless, terrified diva.

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  14. This was way good! I love my engineer girlfriend! We get along great, she's super smart and logical. Before I found her I didn't think a girl like this existed, lol. Just an amazingly kind, smart and beautiful woman. I'm sooo lucky!

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  16. loved this!... you forgot we have more common sense than those BA gals!...

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  17. Nice article !! love your reading style... !! will try to date an female engineer for sure.. !! PS thanks for writing this wonderful article

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    1. Glad you found the blog and enjoyed the post!

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  18. I loved the disclaimer in the end. While lot of what you said can be true, I just don't like the idea of being stereotyped. So, again, thanks for the nice disclaimer.

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    1. Yes! We all have probably gotten the nasty end of being stereotyped into being the antisocial weirdo who doesn't take showers before people have the opportunity to meet us. But in reality, being an engineer doesn't mean you have to fit any predefined social concepts of what somebody in the profession should be like.

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  19. I really Liked your post, but I first saw it posted on your Daily Top Ten Dose http://yourdailytoptenn.blogspot.com/2015/08/15-reasons-why-you-should-date-female.html Just thought you might want to know.

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    1. Interesting, thanks for letting me know!

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  20. *eye rolls* followed by "Nice finishing paragraph. Maybe I SHOULD date a female engineer!" The irony in that has been noted.

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  21. Hi Vanessa, this is pretty much correct as refer to myself...I think engineers are cool... we are flexible with everyone... =)

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  22. I would love to find a female engineer or scientist since I am one too by training..I have never really had a dating life and thus no sex life as well. I think it would be great to find someone compatible with me for once.

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  23. Amusing observations. I believe that a couple who are both engineers, and have very similar definitions of fun, can be very successful. My wife and I certainly are. The bugs and dead birds are my job, but shelves etc are whoever gets there first. 2 of our friends are the only 2 traffic engineers in town and are a happy and successful couple.

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    1. That's funny about the dead birds! And best of luck to you and your wife, it sounds like you are a good match!

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  24. Give me a Female Software Engineer.

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  25. Wonderful insight, Vanessa! You're spot on that female engineers are very independent. They're usually not the cligy type. Like you wrote, female engineers all vary in their personalities.

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    1. Thanks, Ignat! Glad you enjoyed the article.

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  26. Wonderful insight, Vanessa! You're spot on that female engineers are very independent. They're usually not the cligy type. Like you wrote, female engineers all vary in their personalities.

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  27. Milady is not an engineer, yet most of the stuff is true.

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  28. Wow, that's very interesting article! Love it!

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